Emotional Cognitive Coaching E.C.C.
Evidence Based Method
Dr. Maly Danino - presents
Dr. Danino talks about the E.C.C. method and the writing process of the book “Coach Your child to Success”
During the First Encounter, coach and parent become acquainted with each other. The coach ascertains the nature of the main difficulty of the parent's child, the reasons that brought him to the process and what are his expectations therein as he focuses on previous interventions to date.
During the Second Encounter, the parent-in-training is asked to visualize in his mind a future picture of his child. Thus the parent is motivated by the 'here and now' to envision a realistic future picture anchored in current reality as he experiences it. In addition, the parent-in-training experiences exercising a minor, achievable goal that would allow him to experience progress and success.
During the Third Encounter, the parent defines the first training goal following the dialogue he had held with his child. The coach assists him in choosing a modest and attainable objective that would allow him to experience progress and success.
During the Fourth Encounter, the parent-in-training shifts from defining an external training goal to outlining an internal one now based on objective reality leading to a change, even a barely perceptible one – as long as it is considered significant as it is experienced by the parent-in-training.
During the Fifth Encounter, the parent-in-training learns about himself: his strength, weaknesses, apprehensions, threats in his reality and the opportunities embodied in all these. Through stories taken out of his life, the coach brings the parent-in-training to meet both successes and failures he has been through, and enables him to understand that a given difficulty can serve as a challenge of great significance in the process of developing coping skills regarding his child.
During the Sixth Encounter, the parent-in-training enhances his awareness of the values guiding him in life, by presenting the following question: To what do I say "Yes," and to what do I say "No"? Thus, he develops insights that help him see both aspects of the value in which he believes, and comprehend that there are no absolute values.
During the Seventh Encounter, an assessment of the parent- in-training's progress is conducted. He is asked again to see a picture of his child in the future, then a comparison is conducted between the future picture he envisioned in the second encounter and the one envisioned in this one.
During the Eighth Encounter is where preparation for action is made. The parent-in-training and coach will plan a detailed process of reflection that would enable the coach to examine the training goal, its clarity, its focus on the child and his strengths as well as the needs of the parent-in-training and his strengths, and to examine to what extent the mission assists in the fulfillment of the child's future picture and expresses the empowerment model and values the parent wants to have his child acquire.
The Ninth, Tenth and Eleventh Encounters are training sessions (in The Gym). During these encounters the parent-in-training undertakes the performance of well-defined missions after he has completed the investigation stage and has developed new insights that would serve to maximize accomplishment of the training goal. Each encounter will be composed of the following stages: Planning, performance and learning improvement.
During the Twelfth Encounter, the coach will sum up the process by getting feedback from the parent-in-training that will allow himself to appreciate the significant events he had experienced and to examine in-depth what he has been through so far, the progress he has made to date, and his connection with the coach. The coach will share with the parent-in-training what he had seen and experienced during the training and will end with words of farewell.
The Thirteenth Encounter is a follow-up encounter that takes place six months after the training process had reached its conclusion. During this encounter the coach and the parent- in-training will examine the training accomplishments from the perspective of the time that has passed since training.